#FlushRush: Top Democrat Urges Radio Stations To Drop Rush Limbaugh After He Suggested ‘No Means Yes’
A top Democrat is calling on radio stations to stop broadcasting The Rush Limbaugh Show after the conservative radio host made headlines for mocking Ohio State University’s new sexual assault policies, which require students to actively and explicitly agree to sexual activity. On his show on Monday, Limbaugh claimed that requiring affirmative consent is an unreasonable standard because guys know that “no means yes if you know how to spot it.”
In the segment, which was first flagged by Media Matters, Limbaugh claimed that “seduction used to be an art” and college campuses are now making it into something that is considered to be “brutish” and “predatory.” He suggested it’s unrealistic to require students to ask for permission every step of the way during a sexual encounter. “Are these not lawsuits waiting to happen?” the radio host said.
Limbaugh’s critics wasted no time calling for his removal, pointing out that his approach to sexual assault has no place in a society that’s currently grappling with the best way to respond to intimate partner violence and campus rape cases.
“There’s simply no excusing comments of this offensive nature, especially at a time where our country is having a long-overdue conversation about violence against women,” Democratic Congressional Committee Chairman Rep. Steve Israel (D-NY) said in a statement released on Tuesday morning. “Plain and simple — Rush Limbaugh is advocating for the tolerance of sexual assault and should be taken off the air immediately.”
Limbaugh is no stranger to criticism along those lines, especially when it comes to issues of misogyny. In 2012, he infamously called law student Sandra Fluke a “slut” and a “prostitute” after she advocated for Obamacare’s contraception mandate. He also once said that single mothers are “semen receptacles” and that feminism was created to give ugly women a place in society. Over the past several years, petitions and boycott groups have urged Clear Channel to drop him, to no avail. Limbaugh has also been the subject of an ongoing campaign attempting to convince advertisers to stop supporting his show.
Limbaugh’s critiques of Ohio State’s affirmative consent policy aren’t entirely unusual. After California approved legislation that requires all college campuses to adopt a “yes means yes” standard of consent, critics rushed to argue that it was an over-reaching standard that would essentially “kill the mood” and turn everyone into rapists in the eyes of the law. In reality, affirmative consent simply encourages sexual partners to engage in open and honest communication to ensure they’re both interested in having sex with each other.
BarbWire's Gina Miller: 'Slutty' Women Encourage Sexual Assault [TW: Anti-Feminism, Victim Shaming, Victim Blaming, Slut-Shaming, Sexism, Trivialization of Rape, Rape Culture, Enabling of Rape Culture]
BarbWire content editor and columnist Gina Miller was the guest this weekend on “Mission America,” where she and host Linda Harvey took a break from attacking the LGBT community to discuss campus sexual assaults, for which they blame feminism for launching a “war on white males.”
Miller said feminists, and all liberals, “have this hatred for males, especially white males.”
“There is this palpable hatred for men,” she said. “Actual rape is a terrible thing and no one is saying that these men are not accountable but I at the same time hold women responsible for when they put themselves, present themselves in slutty attire at a drunken frat party and then expect these frat boys to behave like gentlemen. It’s nonsense.”
Harvey, for her part, claimed the “war on women” is a myth, when in reality there is “a war on unborn babies, a war on common sense [and] a war on Christianity.” Miller agreed: “The war on women is a completely fabricated, made-up thing. There is actually a war out there, it’s a war against all humanity led by the Devil himself and people that he inspires. A war on unborn babies, it’s a genocidal, homicidal war. There is a real war on white males in this nation.”
h/t: Brian Tashman at RWW
Another Mega Church Implodes: The Self-Destruction of A Misogynistic, Sexist Asshole Pastor & How He’s About To Take His “Church” Down With Him [TW: Sexism, Misogyny, Objectification of Women]
Once one of America’s fastest growing churches, Seattle’s Mars Hill Church, announced this week the closing of three locations and warned that another would be closed if donations fail to increase. The church also laid off around 40 of their 100 church staff, including several pastors who had expressed public disagreement with church leaders.
Co-founded by controversial pastor Mark Driscoll, Mars Hill leaders closed two Seattle locations: one in the University of Washington area and the other in downtown Seattle. The members from these locations have been urged to go to the location in Ballard, WA. The fourth campus, Huntington Beach, CA, was informed that an increase in donations by local attenders might prevent the closing of that campus.
Driscoll is one of the best-known figures in the evangelical Christian movement in the United States. He is a long-winded preacher with a hard edge who has been accused by former Mars Hill Church pastors of being domineering and intrusive, including unwelcome comments about the sex lives of pastors and their wives. He is also accused of using the pulpit to further a cult of personality surrounding himself. As the Daily Beast wrote about him back in 2012: “He’s developed a reputation as a testosterone-oozing Calvinist bruiser who shouts down his congregation, swears from the pulpit and sometimes seems to think that if you’re not cut out for the locker room, you’re not cut out for heaven. If you’re a woman, you’d better make sure you keep your husband fed and serviced.”
The closings and layoffs come amid unprecedented opposition from former pastors and church members. On Aug. 3, between 60-70 former and current members held a demonstration outside the church. Jan Carlson attended Mars Hill Church between 2009 and 2012 and left because of problems that became clearer the longer they stayed. She said Mars Hill “engages in heavy-handed discipline through a hierarchical structure.” She added that her experience has taught her that “spiritual abuse exists,” and that one should “know what it is, and keep your eyes and ears open. When you see red flags, be willing to walk away.”
On Aug. 21, twenty-one former Mars Hill Church pastors and twenty-one other anonymous witnesses lodged a broad range of charges against Driscoll. The detailed letter also outlined concerns surrounding a contract with a consulting group to use church funds to rig the sales of Driscoll’s book with his wife, Grace, Real Marriage: The Truth About Sex, Friendship, and Life Together, in order to secure a spot on The New York Times bestseller list.
The focus of the former pastors was accusations of workplace bullying, and the creation of a culture of fear among church workers and ministers. One former member of the Mars Hill Church governing board, Paul David Tripp, called Mars Hill Church, “the most abusive, coercive ministry culture I’ve ever been involved with.”Mars Hill was “the most abusive, coercive ministry culture I’ve ever been involved with.”
Tripp delivered that assessment in a meeting with nine Mars Hill Church pastors who were still employed by the church at the time of the meeting. Then on Aug. 22, those pastors delivered a letter to their remaining fellow pastors asking Driscoll step down and enter a process of repentance and restoration. Instead of complying with the direction of his pastors, Driscoll announced to the church on Aug. 24 after his Sunday sermon that he would take “an extended focus break” in order to heal and allow the church to examine the allegations against him.
Since Driscoll announced his leave, several pastors have resigned amid criticism of how the church plans to investigate the charges against Driscoll. According to Mark Dunford, who was dismissed as a volunteer pastor from the Portland, Ore., campus, the executive elders of Mars Hill, which includes Driscoll, chose the committee that will examine the charges against him. Indeed, the committee is composed of pastors who are subordinate to Driscoll and were not elected by their fellow pastors. Dunford wrote:
…the Executive Elders (of which he [Driscoll] is one) added three additional members to the board that would adjudicate his charges and having created/restored the Board of Elders to investigate those charges. I want to be clear that the elders themselves are not involved with selecting who would serve on those boards. Again, it was the EE [Executive Elders] who made those decisions.
In addition to the recent charges involving Driscoll, the church has also been under fire for most of 2014. For instance, church leaders have failed to disclose specifics about how donations designated for church work in Ethiopia and India were spent. Instead of the donations going to international purposes, much of what was donated to the church’s Global Fund ended up being spent on expansion in the United States.
Perhaps the most crippling blow to Driscoll and Mars Hill came on Aug. 8 when the board of Acts 29 Network, an organization designed to promote the development of new churches and co-founded by Driscoll, removed Driscoll and Mars Hill Church from membership. The board asked Driscoll to resign and seek counsel.
Mars Hill Church leaders blamed bad publicity for the precipitous drop in attendance and tithes. According to church representative Justin Dean, attendance is down to between 8,000 and 9,000 from a high of 12,000 to 13,000 people. Some locations have seen attendance plummet over 70%. Donations are off in similar fashion. Due to the financial crisis, leaders of the church resorted to this week’s closings and layoffs, calling the current situation the “most serious budget challenge” in the history of the church.
Many ex-members I spoke with felt like financial matters were off limits from the laity. Former churchgoer Mark Yetman told me that financial information is “hidden” and that “questioning is discouraged and considered divisive.”
Despite the current decline of the Mars Hill, former members of the church see some lessons in the situation. Dave Lester, who attended from 2008-2011, told me, “The big takeaway lesson here is there has to be legitimate accountability for a supremely gifted leader in any organization.”
Lester, who was a community group leader while at the church, added, “The church should never be about the building of a celebrity platform for a person and the subsequent celebrity worship.”
This Republican Takes the Cake for the Worst Reaction to the Ray Rice Video [TW: Sexism, Misogyny, Violence Against Women]
Gross misogyny at its very worst.
Here is the worst response to the Ray Rice domestic violence incident yet:
Ex South Carolina Republican operative, Todd Kincannon took to Twitter on Sept. 9 to post an utterly tone-deaf reaction to the TMZ video showing NFL athlete Ray Rice knocking unconcious his then-fiancee Janay Palmer. While the Tweet has since been taken down, it wasn’t before someone took a screenshot of the tweet in which Kincannon vilifies the victim by saying that the “dumb bitch” got what she deserved for starting the whole mess.
Kincannon’s gross display of misogyny did not stop there. He decided to post more defamatory and chauvinistic statements regarding domestic violence:
In contrast to the national outcry over the Ray Rice scandal that ensued after the video’s emergence, Kincannon chose to take the road less traveled: He made light of a violent encounter.
This isn’t the first time and won’t be the last. If Kincannon’s response to brutal abuse is shocking, then don’t follow him on Twitter. The GOP troll has a history of harassing and smearing people on the social media outlet, constantly posting hateful tweets.
Back in January, Kincannon launched a sexist campaign against Sen. Wendy Davis comparing her to Monica Lewinsky and likening her to a prostitute.
Salon's Elias Isquith noted at the time, “It shouldn’t come as a surprise, then, to find that Kincannon, who regards himself as some kind of Twitter provocateur, has caused an outrage on Twitter with his latest barrage of hate-tweets. But instead of focusing his ire on Trayvon Martin, trans* people, or U.S. veterans, Kincannon has set his sights on Wendy Davis, the Texas Democrat who is currently in the midst of running her underdog campaign to become the next governor of the Lone Star State.”
Kincannon’s attacks leave no stone unturned, taking down people for being poor or liberal or for any sort of general flaw he sees in people online – his latest stunt is to take down a woman online for posting a picture that he claims show her with herpes.
The takeaway: Kincannon is full of vitriol and hate. He degraded what is at the heart of the Ray Rice domestic violence incident and has no remorse for it. Domestic violence is a serious issue layered with complexities, all of which has gone right over Kincannon’s head.
Kincannon isn’t the only GOP-member to take a poor stance on the issue. Republicans lined up to oppose the expansion of the Violence Against Women Act in 2013, which brought to light the GOP’s apathy of violence against women. Kincannon’s response coupled with the Republican indifference is a prime example of how the left’s rhetoric on the issue needs a serious overhaul.
h/t Addicting Info
Source: Jenna Kagel for News.Mic
Conservative commentators think we’re more interested in pretty shoes than voting. I wonder why they’re having trouble getting women’s support.
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Insulted yet? Well, that’s what folks at Fox News and a series of conservative commentators and websites seem to think about you. On Fox’s Outnumbered — a show so dedicated to serious and not-at-all-sexist political analysis that it bills itself as “Featuring an ensemble of four female panelists &#OneLuckyGuy" — panelists took turns complaining about Cosmopolitan.com's decision to endorse pro-choice candidates, claiming (falsely) that Cosmopolitan.com will “probably leave out jobs and a whole bunch of other stuff that we ladies care about.” Putting aside the fact that Fox commentators have not always shown such a commitment to the interests of working women, our endorsement criteria are actually a little more detailed and include issues such as equal pay for equal work, raising the minimum wage, and leadership on ending violence against women. In the past month, our political stories have included coverage of a Supreme Court justice’s reflections on Roe v. Wade, multiple threatened executions by ISIS, sexual assault in the armed forces, and the militarization of the police in places like Ferguson, Missouri, just to name a few.
"Is this beyond the purview of what the readership of this magazine actually wants to see?" Fox panelist Guy Benson asked about our #CosmoVotes initiative aimed at getting women to the polls. “Do they want to be preached at about politics when they really just want to check out the latest fashions and these wonderful shoes you guys are all wearing?” With that last line, he gestured to the footwear of his four female co-hosts.
One of the reasons we started #CosmoVotes was because we saw how regularly young female voters are derided, condescended to, and insulted. Women hear so often that we’re dumb and uninformed that even the most politically savvy among us start to believe it: Women are less likely than men to think they’re qualified to run for office; they’re less likely to hear they should run for office; and once they do run, they are less confident and less likely to take risks. With the inescapable "Beyonce voter" heckles from the media peanut gallery, who can blame them?
Women who are assertive and confident are punished for that too, because they’re seen as abrasive, while men are just leaders. And so even though more women vote than men and more women are graduating from college than men, women are still sorely underrepresented in every major political body. Men go through life with a pervasive overconfidence, which benefits them in the workplace and in leadership positions; for women, simply having a female name means you’re perceived as less competent. Women, then, opine less and are less likely to see themselves as experts or adequately informed; as a result of that, and the fact that female voices and opinions are routinely derided, womenplay less of a role in public political debate.
It means we realize that pro-life women use birth control and have abortions too, and we think they should have that right.
We think that’s a damn shame. And we want to give our readers the tools to push back on it by encouraging them to vote (no matter which candidate they vote for) and by throwing our weight behind candidates who stand up for women instead of condescending to us.
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No one has to agree with us or with the candidates we’ve endorsed. We welcome vigorous debate, and as we’ve said before, we hope you do your own research, form your own opinions, and vote for the politicians you believe represent your best interests. But we do object to the suggestion that Cosmopolitan.com shouldn’t be issuing endorsements at all because, apparently, we’re bubbleheads who should “stick with fashion and orgasms.” Newspapers that cover, say, sports — not exactly the height of intellectual acuity — aren’t subjected to the same condescension that comes with writing about sex, fashion, and beauty. They don’t hear the accusation that they’re “dictating" what their apparently mindless readers should do or face the assumption that because light content appears on one page, there’s no place for something more serious.
It’s almost as if the problem isn’t that we, like so many other publications, are writing about politics and endorsing candidates, but that we’re writing about politics and endorsing candidates and we’re a publication focused on women.
We think you’re perfectly capable of reading an article about shoes and still walking yourself to your polling place to cast an informed, thoughtful vote.
This is all especially rich coming from conservative media mouthpieces, in an election year when conservative candidates are having a tough time appealing to female voters (the only women who reliably support Republicans are those who are both married and don’t have a college degree). Many conservative policies — like opposition to abortion access, insurance coverage for contraception, equal pay for equal work, a higher minimum wage, and gun control — do women real harm. Of the 10 worst American states for women, measured by women’s economic security, leadership roles, and health, all 10 are Republican-dominated red states. This isn’t just about a horse race; it’s about women’s day-to-day ability to live up to their full potential and to exist in a healthy, cared-for body.
Conservative rhetoric hurts too. It’s not just the cluelessness about how women’s uteruses supposedly “shut down” “legitimate rape.” It’s also the idea that women are more interested in driving their kids to the dentist than in equal pay, that the pay gap isn’t real, that abortion is never necessary, and now that young women just want to see shoe pictures and are too dumb to realize Cosmopolitan.com's endorsements are our analysis and suggestion, not marching orders.
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CBS sportscaster James Brown used his time on air during the pregame for the Baltimore Ravens vs. Pittsburgh Steelers game Thursday night to broadcast a serious message about domestic violence, as outrage over newly-released video depicting former Ravens running back Ray Rice beating his now-wife unconscious continues to ripple through the NFL.
While the league have faced criticism for continually citing Rice’s then-fiancee Janay Palmer’s role in the February incident, Brown’s speech turned the conversation to men’s role in domestic abuse.
“This problem is bigger than football,” Brown says over the din of audience flowing into the stadium. “But wouldn’t it be productive if this collective outrage, as my colleagues have said, could be channeled to truly hear and address the long-suffering cries for help by so many women and, as they said, do something about it?
“Like an ongoing comprehensive education of men of what healthy, respectful manhood is all about, and it starts with how we view women. Our language is important. For instance, when a guy says ‘you throw the ball like a girl,’ or ‘you’re a little sissy,’ it reflects an attitude that devalues women. And attitudes will eventually manifest in some fashion.”
Sexual assault and domestic violence prevention organizers have long advocated for flipping the conversation about abuse to what men can do to prevent it, rather than how women can get out of the way of men who will inevitably abuse. “When we solely focus on whether a survivor stays with or leaves their abusive partner,” Chai Jindasurat, the programs coordinator for the Anti-Violence Project, told ThinkProgress’s Tara Culp-Ressler in a recent interview, “we place all the responsibility on the survivor rather than holding an abusive partner accountable.”
Instead of asking why women have put themselves in a dangerous position or stayed in one, “A better question,” the National Network to End Domestic Violence says on its website, ” is, Why does the abuser choose to abuse?”
But both the NFL and some other outlets have been slow to take this message to heart. When the incident originally came to light, the Baltimore Ravens tweeted that Janay Rice “says she deeply regrets the role that she played the night of the incident.” That tweet was just recently deleted after the video became public knowledge. Similarly, Fox News host Brian Kilmeade argued last week that Palmer sent a “terrible message” by staying with her abuser, and that since Rice hit her in the elevator, “I think the message is, take the stairs.”
The lawsuit says Jones sexually assaulted the woman in 2009 and threatened her to keep her from reporting the incident or making it public.
A 27-year-old Oklahoma woman on Tuesday filed a civil lawsuit against Dallas Cowboys owner Jerry Jones, claiming that he sexually assaulted her in a Dallas hotel in 2009.
Jones “intentionally and knowingly sexually assaulted Plaintiff without her consent,”according to the complaint. The suit includes graphic details, accusing Jones of forcibly penetrating the accuser’s vagina with his fingers, groping her breasts and buttocks, forcing her to touch his penis, and receiving oral sex in front of her, all without her consent.
The suit, which names both Jones and the Cowboys as defendants and seeks at least $1 million in damages, also accuses both parties of “conspir[ing] to cover up the sexual assault” by threatening her to keep her from telling police, “intimidated” her into signing non-disclosure agreements and “bullied” her “into believing that she would somehow be in trouble if she told anyone.”
The alleged assault occurred during events that emerged publicly in bizarre fashion in August, when a man named Frank Hoover penned a long piece about Jones that featured three pictures of the Cowboys owner, including one in which he was groping a woman. The accuser, Jana Weckerly, says she did not appear in any of the pictures but was the person who took them.
According to a statement given to Deadspin after Hoover published his manifesto against Jones, Weckerly arrived at the hotel with two exotic dancers to party with Jones. The Dallas Morning News described Weckerly as a former exotic dancer. Jones called the pictures a “misrepresentation” after their release. His lawyer called the suit a “money grab” and a “shakedown” on Tuesday.
“These allegations are completely false. The legal complaint is unsupported by facts or evidence of any kind,” Jones’ attorney told the Morning News. “This is nothing more than an attempt to embarrass and extort Jerry Jones. This is a money grab by a lawyer who is a solo practitioner just trying to make a name for himself. The alleged incidents would have been more than five years old.
The attorney said Jones will “vigorously fight” the lawsuit. An NFL spokesperson said the league had no comment on the suit, according to the Morning News.
Texas has a two-year statute of limitations on personal injury civil lawsuits, though there are various legal arguments the plaintiff could possibly use to still make a legal claim. And the lawsuit could draw the attention of the NFL. The league’s Personal Conduct Policy applies not just to players but to owners and executives too, and amid criticism of his handling of the Ray Rice domestic violence incident, NFL commissioner Roger Goodell recently announced a policy for disciplining incidents of sexual assault and domestic violence. Though it’s not yet clear how that policy works (or even if it’s actually new), Jones could conceivably face punishment under it. Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback Ben Roethlisberger, for instance, was suspended under the Conduct Policy in 2010 even though he was not criminally charged with sexual assault. At the time, Roethlisberger was also facing a civil lawsuit that accused him of sexual assault.
Source: Travis Waldron for ThinkProgress
Fox hosts giggle that NFL player’s abused girlfriend should learn to ‘take the stairs’ [TW: Sexism, Misogyny, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Violence, Trivialization of Abuse]
The hosts of Fox & Friends on Monday turned video of NFL player Ray Rice punching his then-girlfriend unconscious in an elevator into a joke, saying that in the future she should “take the stairs.”
After TMZ released a leaked surveillance video that showed what happened when Rice knocked out the woman inside the elevator, the Fox News hosts asked viewers if a two-game suspension had been appropriate.
“We should also point out, after that video — and now you know what happened in there — she still married him,” host Steve Doocy explained. “They are currently married.”
“Rihanna went back to Chris Brown right after [he assaulted her],” co-host Brian Kilmeade noted. “A lot of people thought that was a terrible message.”
“I think the message is take the stairs,” he added, as co-host Anna Kooiman giggled.
“The message is, when you’re in an elevator, there’s a camera,” Doocy concluded.
Watch the video below from Fox News’s Fox & Friends, broadcast Sept. 8, 2014.
(h/t: Sports Grid)
CeeLo Green's Disgusting Comments Prove Rape Culture Is Alive and Well [TW: Rape Culture, Rape Enablism, Rape Apologism, Victim Blaming, Victim Shaming]
Well that took an ugly turn.
When a woman comments on the Internet about the prevalence of rape culture, the backlash is often swift. And thanks to CeeLo Green’s deep-seated misunderstanding of the circumstances surrounding his own alleged sexual assault, we know that even prominent celebrities can perpetuate myths about rape, with or without understanding what they are doing.
Green, the singer-songwriter perhaps best known for his hit song “Fuck You,” drew the ire of many women’s advocates due to tweets he sent after pleading no contest to supplying ecstasy to a woman in 2012; he allegedly had intercourse with her while she was unconscious. After receiving a sentence of three years on probation and 360 days of community service (for the drug; no rape charges were ever filed), Green took to social media to tell his followers all about how he’s actually a nice guy, railroaded by critics who don’t understand what rape is.
Unfortunately for Green, his tweets, deleted since he sent them on Tuesday, but preserved in screenshots, left little doubt as to who exactly it was who didn’t understand the concept of rape.
"People who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!" he wrote in one. "If someone is passed out they’re not even WITH you consciously! so WITH Implies consent," he (erroneously) claimed in another.
There are so many damaging myths about sexual assault in those two little sentences that it’s hard to know where to start.
First of all, being with a person never implies consent. You don’t consent to anything, sexual or otherwise, simply by being in the presence of someone else. Being with someone who drugged you without your knowledge most certainly does not imply consent either.
Second, many rape victims do not remember their assault. That does not mean the rape doesn’t count. Good lord.
Following backlash online (and probably a frantic call from his publicist), Green deleted the wildly inaccurate and insensitive tweets, and his entire account, which has since been reactivated.
Unfortunately, Green’s victim-blaming beliefs about sexual assault aren’t surprising, because they aren’t new. From celebrities who sing about supposed “blurred lines" to politicians like Todd Akin who use language like “legitimate rape” to lawyers like the one in Steubenville, Ohio, who claimed that a victim’s silence implies consent, it’s clear that Green’s comments are the rule rather than the exception in our cultural reality. They point to a profound misunderstanding at every level of society of what consent actually looks like.
In a couple of days, it’s likely this entire scandal will blow over and we’ll move on to the next public figure who says something terrible about women. Green will go on to sell records and be a successful recording artist, just like many other male entertainers with histories of hurting women, from Chris Brown to Sean Penn.
Like these other well-known abusers, Green likely didn’t come up with this misguided theory about consent: He learned it. Until our culture teaches men that nothing — not your gender, wealth or fame — entitles you to female bodies, people like him will continue to believe and claim that some women are deserving of rape.
Update 09/02/2014 9:15 pm: According to UltraViolet, it took as little as three hours for after the launch of their online petition for TBS (Time Warner’s parent company) to cancel CeeLo Green’s show “The Good Life”.
Source: Elizabeth Plank for Mic
BarbWire.com's Gina Miller: "We'll End Rape Culture When Women Stop Dressing Like Strumpets, Prostitutes, And Porn Stars" [TW: Slut-Shaming, Misogyny, Rape Culture, Sexism, Enabling of Rape Culture]
BarbWire’s Gina Miller used her column today to respond to a piece on the Huffington Post asserting that what is needed is not a new nail polish for women that can detect the presence of date rape drugs in their drinks but rather a concerted effort toward “solutions to shifting rape culture where consent, on both sides, is seen as the norm.”
Miller was decidely unimpressed by the supposed need to “stop blaming the victim [and] educate men on how not to rape” because the only real solution is to get our society to turn to Jesus … plus, all those drunken sluts who are dressing like prostitutes are partially responsible for getting raped because they are sending mixed messages:
Why do you suppose that there might be a “blame the victim” mentality today? Do women ever bear any responsibility for putting themselves in potentially dangerous places and situations, like drunken frat parties? Do they bear no responsibility for the outrageous “fashions” they choose to wear nowadays, clothing that makes them look like prostitutes and porn “stars,” clothing that arguably feeds the “rape culture”? Yes, we know that a man who sexually assaults a woman is always wrong, but why is it considered just fine for a woman to present herself in a hyper-sexual, sleazy way and then expect men to treat her with the dignity and honor she imagines she deserves? The disconnect from reason is palpable.
To many on the Left, the answer to most problems is “education,” but what young man doesn’t already know that it’s wrong to sexually assault another person? Who is unclear that “no” means “no”? There again, can it be argued that a woman dressed like a strumpet, yet saying “no” to unwanted sexual advances, sends a mixed message? Yes, I know it’s outrageous, but this is what our Godless culture has wrought. There are a lot of bad people out there, and no amount of “education,” telling them it’s wrong (they already know this), will change their evil hearts.
[T]here will be no shifting of any rape culture by throwing money at more “rape culture awareness,” or telling young men that it’s wrong to rape, or holding colleges accountable, or not “blaming the victim.” Our nation has turned its back on God. We have kicked Him out of our schools and out of the public square. We have raised several generations of Godless, self-centered, sex-obsessed kids, and the truth is that there can be no positive transformation of any sick culture without the saving power of the Spirit of God through Jesus Christ to change people’s hearts of stone into new hearts of flesh.
h/t: Kyle Mantyla at RWW
Fox spent much of its VMA coverage questioning Beyonce’s ability to promote feminism while being "extremely sexual."
Megyn Kelly labeled Beyonce’s message and lyrics as “skanky,” while a FoxNews.com article claimed the singer “seemed to ensure her behind was the focus on each song, all the while educating young viewers about feminism.”
On The Five, Fox hosts suggested “she’s auditioning for a future husband,” and Greg Gutfeld announced that ”the greatest thing about pop culture is convincing women that acting like strippers is empowering.”
What Fox failed to recognize is that expressing sexuality does not automatically remove a woman’s right to discuss equality. Instead, the network righteously shamed Beyonce and used her performance as basis to attack feminism as a whole. In reality, such policing of women’s sexuality has harmed progress toward equality. The very same mindset has been used to dismiss women’s need to access contraception, and blame rape survivors for their own assaults.
If anyone is going to be shamed, it should be Fox and its irresponsible coverage of women’s issues.
Routine sexist attacks from the National Rifle Association’s media outlets are undermining the organization’s political effort to reach out to women as a growing demographic.
On August 25, NRA magazine America’s 1st Freedom attacked prominent gun safety advocate and Mom’s Demand Action for Gun Sense in America founder Shannon Watts. As Gawker’s Adam Weinstein explained, the article featured images of Watts “as a cutout mom with kitchen and housekeeping accoutrements, because moms oughta know their place!” The accompanying article accused Watts of lying about being a stay-at-home mom, because she had for a time run a PR firm out of her house while raising her children.
This offensive depiction of a woman from NRA media seems in stark contrast to the political arm of the NRA, which the very same day debuted several new ads narrated by women — in a series titled “Good Guys” — promoting the message that guns are a sign of empowerment for women and that women are an important part of the NRA community. One features a woman lauding the importance of “Mom and Dad”; one stars a woman emphasizing the “courage" it takes to be one of the "Good Guys." Another ad released earlier this month also featured a female narrator driving a pickup truck and attacking Everytown for Gun Safety founder Michael Bloomberg, telling him to “keep your hands off our guns.”
Right-wing female commentators have long argued that “guns are the great equalizer between sexes in crimes against women,” falsely claiming that guns make women safer. CNN’s S.E. Cupp, The Blaze’s Dana Loesch, and Fox News’ Katie Pavlich have regularly appeared on cable news and published books to promote the NRA as a pro-women organization.
But as Media Matters noted in a feature on the NRA’s annual meeting, 2014 seemed to mark a shift for the organization towards focusing increasingly on women and moms. In part that shift is monetary, as advertisers see women as a largely untapped market. It also seems, however, that the shift is in part in response to gun safety organizations, including Everytown for Gun Safety and Moms Demand Action, who increasingly emphasize how dangerous guns can be for women in abusive situations.
This recent recognition of women by the NRA is undermined, however, by the attack on Watts and the numerous misogynistic and sexist comments from NRA commentators and spokespeople.
Just two months ago, for example, an NRA commentator fetishized assault weapons by comparing them to attractive women. Noir, a Sunday web series hosted by NRA News commentator Colion Noir, aired two separate ads that at first appear to feature a narrator describing stylishly-dressed, flirtatious women (“Her Jimmy Choo’s can’t be comfortable, but you’d never know it … She’s the kind to tell the bartender how to make her drink”), only to reveal at the end that he was describing a gun the entire time. One of the ads aired just days after a mass shooting in Isla Vista, California, which was reportedly inspired by the shooter’s admitted hatred of women.
Last year, the NRA featured Fox News’ Sean Hannity as a keynote speaker at the 7th Annual NRA Women’s Leadership Forum Luncheon, despite his association with a group whose leadership has claimed that one of America’s greatest mistakes was allowing women to vote.
NRA News host Cam Edwards once attacked Glamourmagazine’s Women of the Year Awards for making “the world a more dangerous place for women,” because the event honored victims of gun violence, including Pakistani education reformer Malala Yousafzai, and former Rep. Gabrielle Giffords (D-AZ) — who was wounded during a 2011 mass shooting in Tucson, Arizona.
Most outrageous is NRA board member Ted Nugent, whose rampant sexism - including calling Hillary Clinton a “toxic cunt,” comparing abstaining from drugs and alcohol to avoiding “fat chicks,” telling a CBS producer “I’ll fuck you, how’s that sound?”, and featuring a nude, bound woman with a grenade in her mouth on an album cover — has never been a problem for the organization.
Gun safety advocates and progressives have also been talking about women more lately, as part of a new push to recognize the dangers guns pose to women in domestic violence situations. The presence of a gun in an abusive situation increases the risk that a woman will be murdered by 500 percent, and women are more than three times as likely to be murdered when there is a gun in their house even when domestic violence isn’t a factor. In fact, more women in the U.S. were killed by an intimate partner using a gun from 2001 to 2012 than the total number of troops killed in action in the Iraq and Afghanistan wars combined.
As for the argument that those women could have defended themselves if they had a gun, The Atlanticexplained that according to a study published in the American Journal of Public Health, researchers interviewed women across 67 battered women’s shelters, and found that nearly a third of them had lived in a household with a firearm. “In two-thirds of the homes, their intimate partners had used the gun against them, usually threatening to kill (71.4 percent) them. A very small percentage of these women (7 percent) had used a gun successfully in self-defense, and primarily just to scare the attacking male partner away.”
The NRA doesn’t want to talk about the realities of domestic violence. Instead, they prefer to fearmonger about liberals attempting to “insult” women by “taking” their guns. But they can’t have it both ways, talking about women as nothing more than sex objects and housewives one day, and liberated gun owners the next.
The same St. Louis police officer who was seen on CNN earlier this week pushing Don Lemon back during a live broadcast from Ferguson, Missouri, has been relieved of his duty after video emerged of an hour-long speech he delivered railing against African-Americans, the LGBT community and President Barack Obama. CNN reported the news about Officer Dan Page, who made the controversial remarks at an Oath Keepers meeting just months ago.
“It’s wide-ranging inflammatory remarks about a lot of people, about women, about gay people,” Lemon reported. “He talks about the president of the United States. He speaks out against affirmative action, women in the military and on and on.”
In the video, Page discusses the “four sodomites on the Supreme Court,” talks about our “undocumented president” from Kenya, and much more.
“What do you say after that?” Lemon said after CNN aired clips of Page’s speech. “There’s much more of that. at least an hour’s worth of him ranting about different people, different situations.”
During Lemon’s live report on Monday from Ferguson, Page confronted the host, physically pushing him away from CNN’s camera. “Now you see why people are so upset here,” Lemon said at the time.
Watch video below, via CNN:
And you can watch Page’s full hour-long speech below:
UPDATE – 08/22/14 – 7:40 p.m.: The Police Chief has apologized. You can watch his remarks HERE.
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Fox News host Keith Ablow defended his attack on First Lady Michelle Obama’s weight, telling Politico that it was “hypocrisy” for her to act as a “role model” on diet when she “has not been consistently a picture of fitness.”
Ablow came under fire for his comments on the August 12 edition of Fox’s Outnumbered, where he argued that Michelle Obama is not a credible voice on school nutrition because “she needs to drop a few” pounds. Even one of Ablow’s colleagues at Fox, Janice Dean, criticized his remarks, tweeting “please keep your comments about women ‘dropping a few’ to yourself.”
Nevertheless the next day Ablow told Politico that he was “not taking food advice from an American who dislikes America” and ”has not been consistently a picture of fitness”:
"I do dislike hypocrisy and I really do believe that people speaking about diet should be role models themselves, and I’m not sure if the First Lady is that role model," Ablow said in an interview.
"I’m not taking food advice from an American who dislikes America, who in many photographs during her tenure as First Lady is obviously not fit, and who has a record of saying things that show that she’s two-faced," Ablow said Wednesday. “This should be obvious, I don’t know why it isn’t.”
Ablow is standing by his commentsand saying that people “should be less sensitive about talking about [weight].”
One reason for his criticism, he says, relates to consistency.
"It happens to be the case that the First Lady during her tenure has not been consistently a picture of fitness," he said. "That’s all, it is just a fact."
A Fox host says that Michelle Obama is too fat to be credible on nutrition: "How well could she be eating? She needs to drop a few."
And people wonder why women obsess over their weight, rather than focusing on actual nutrition. The sad reality:
- Girls as young as six are unhappy with their weight.
- Surveys show that just 12% of women over 50 are ‘satisfied’ with their size.
- “40% of girls in grade ten and 37% of girls in grade nine thought of themselves as being too fat.”
- According to the National Eating Disorder Association, “20 million women and 10 million men suffer from a clinically significant eating disorder at some time in their life.”
U.S. women already put too much pressure on themselves over size. We don’t need irresponsible media outlets like Fox to worsen that mindset.
From the 08.12.2014 edition of FNC’s Outnumbered: